Thursday, 2 March 2017

El Chorro semi-blues

Well here we are again, feeling certain things and wondering certain things, and being a bit disgruntled and tired and lacking enthusiasm for things, all because of…

Today I’m beat because of yesterday, which beat me up (or down) – that conversation with Abbie which left me feeling drained and exhausted and sad. Just felt like a lot of words and fighting for my corner and being misunderstood. All those things I said weeks and even months ago, stored in her head and returned to me with interest.

Makes me feel like I wish I hadn’t said those things. Hadn’t shared myself with her. Had been more careful with my words.

Words. Just like I was thinking with Peter. Be careful with words. Realise their impact.

Is that what’s going on right now? I was saying that I didn’t really feel I had much to learn/work on at the moment.

And then the rest of it: what to do with my life, my near future, that whole business. Matt and Easterly and kids look like coming; that’ll mean another 5 or 6 weeks here, for sure.

Should I fix up the Santuario? Put some signs on the tree? Build up the sweat lodge and offer groovy things? Sit there and continue my hot springs maintenance and see who swings by?

Or hike up the canyon first and see who I am/what the world is after that?

That feels like a bit of a “yes”.

Then there’s always the writing…the idea that this could be the perfect place to do it…that all I need is some power and some shade and I’m good to go.

I think about that a lot. And I do still like it here. I’ve just had a bit much with people and talking and listening and all their complaints and opinions and chatter.

Hard work. All the village women (Conny excepted), and some o’ them visiting ones too.

I should have been less caustic with Jenna (and, to an extent, Lily and Abbie and Peter).

I don’t like it so much anymore. I do it to fit in, and because I sort of can. But if I don’t appreciate it when it comes back to me, I shouldn’t give it out (like that time with Shamus).

I probably got a bit arrogant too, a wee bit flip with my tongue, bashing Americans and blowhards like Pete and Jay, etc.

Showing off in front of the girls. Enjoying that sardonic jaded sarcasm.

Yes, it can be fun – but only for the right ears, and certainly not so much of it that I start to take it seriously.

Wasn’t that what I loved about not being able to communicate with people? That I couldn’t complain?

Sitting in the hot springs wondering why people were choosing to focus their minds and words on such negativities, when surrounded by so much beauty – but didn’t I end up doing the same?

I need to think more before I speak – and even to think more before I think.

What do I really mean? What do I really want to be?

Where is peace and niceness? Isn’t everything beautiful? What reason to be so mean in words?

I need to be better. I can hardly complain if I get my ass kicked, after all the nonsense I’ve been handing out.

Abbie smokes and swears and drinks. She may not be the best influence or company for me. If truth be told, much as I like her, I don’t know if I can really trust her – don’t know if I really know the real her.

She’s a good soul. She’s hip and nice and good at doing the right thing. But I’m not so sure she’s so good at being real.

She talks and talks, and spouts and spouts – non-stop, ceaseless, neverending – but when I hold her in my arms, everything goes quiet and she becomes tender and sweet.

Who is she, under all that bluster and ‘tough guy’ exterior?

And I shouldn’t have said anything about Stefan. Naturally she was protective, and defensive. She’s known him a long time. They were together three years. She has an investment in him not being a schmuck – because that reflects on her.

These are examples of thinking more deeply. In attempting to go beyond what people are merely saying, and feeling out what’s really going on for them.

It’s not enough for me to just say what’s going on for me. Though when was the last time I really got to talk? I guess we’re in one of those zones again.

It sort of shines a new rosy light on my time with Pearl – even though I was screaming to get out of there by the end of it (and several days before the end of it too).

Was Pearl the beginning of my downfall here? I was plenty happy before that. Dreams of books dissolved in experiences of women.

Wherefore went the hilarity of my OJ idea, and even the resurrection of MSWL?

Is that what I should be doing? Or should I be thinking San Miguel and San Pancho?

Sure, the rocks and water here may suit me – but are the people really on my vibration?

And Tamahara, of course – that was an interesting one. Weirded out, at first – the way she followed me to the rocks, stared at me, snuggled up into me, told me she’d be sleeping with me – but it was actually quite nice.

The softness of her body. Her giggles. Her laughing at my jokes (biting and sardonic though many of them were). And the way we didn’t have sex or kiss or do much of any of that sort of thing, really. Just wanting to fall asleep. Just wanting to feel another body close by.

I need to go up the canyon.

I’m afraid of what waits for me there.

It’s hot in the sun and cool at night.

It’s a long, lonely way – and perhaps impossible, and foolish.

I want to lie down and feel...

God. God. God.

Always my mind goes to God, in times like these.

A defence mechanism? An excuse, and a justification?

Or something deeper than that?

What difference my urge to leave behind North American complaining and chitter chatter than my urge to escape everything and find something more the first time I was here, in ’99?

Oh Momma. Oh Buddha. Oh Jesus. Oh Amma.

I knew nothing of all of you when I first came here, a young nobody, just 22.

Now I’m 41. Some things have changed; and some have stayed the same. But is the whole show beginning once more?

No John, no Shane, no Shawn, no Lindsay. That was all unknown and unforeseen back then. That whole mad unimagined world that I stepped into.

And now...a new world, a new way of life desired. Not the world of Abbie, of Biosana, of Jeanetti and Susan. Something different, something more.

Is something else unimagined still possible? I’m not sure it is. But I’d sure love it if it were.

Is it waiting for me, up that mountain, finally?

Or is that just more pipe dreams, like Israel desert, like a dozen more before?

What left is there? Save more of the same, and maybe just writing what has been?

Up the canyon we go, I guess. Nothing left to wait for – no pot lucks, no airport rides, no movie nights, no girls or people.

One month till Matt and Easterly arrive. A few good weeks then, I’m sure. And in the meantime...

Well, You see me: see what’s going on. See the people and opportunities that exist around here.

See the whole rest of the world, too, and know how to get me to move around it.

Erica in San Pancho?

That intrigued me, once upon a time – though the thought of her and mainland has faded somewhat.

In a nutshell: I have to be a better man. I have to get off my arse and go hike up that river, finally. I have to talk less. Find something more. Get myself back on track, and not be distracted by women and fruitlessness.

Also, watching a bit of comedy and telly might help. Snaps the brain out of its rut. A little light relief.

Laugh at other mad people, not real. :-)



[And then Tammy turned up and, as I type now, four days later, the idea that I was ever “disgruntled” seems sort of ludicrous. Thanks, Tammy! J]

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